I remember reading a stat/anecdote/piece of info a few years ago, that said roughly “There is a direct correlation between the amount of time people spend on social media and depression”.
If I think about that some more, it generally means, the more you watch other peoples lives, the more dissatisfied you become with your own. Because you are taking something very real, and analysing it against something truly fabricated. Social media (as I have found to my own detriment), is the worst place to place an idea. But also the best. It reaches people, and is consumed, but it is easily manipulated, and has no balances or checks, no built in integrity, no bullshit checker. In that way it is worse than journalism.
I love Facebook, Instagram and even Twitter. I can see what my friends are up to, feel connected to people I love and sadly don’t get to see anymore and can consume all the news and information I choose. At the click of a button I can change everything.
But I feel so dissatisfied after a scan of Facebook, or checking in on a few Instagram pictures. And I don’t really know why. Like what I’m seeing is not real life. It is a fabricated script of the lives people want to purvey. It is is the epitome of shallowness. And every now and then, someone shares something a little challenging, opinionated, something they really care about. And it stands out. But it gets destroyed, and less ‘likes’ than a picture of a friends child, or a hipsters breakfast.
I wonder why we (I) are so scared of sharing anything. It should be the case – and I feel it once was – that we (I) didn’t care what people felt. There simply aren’t always two sides to a story. Sometimes there is one. Sometimes there are eight sides.
I need to think about this some more. But all I really know right now is that people are by and large wrong. And it’s ok to tell them. It comes down to how you tell them.
People who voted Brexit are wrong. People who voted for Trump are wrong. It is quite simple. But how do I convey that in a useful way? I think it probably starts with asking them ‘How do you feel?’. Not ‘What the fuck is wrong with you?’. Essentially not saying a thing. But listening.